Question-What would a mom need after a non stop routine of sleeping half nights, breast feeding, nappy changes, cooking, feeding solids, agreeing to demands that are nothing less difficult than reaching for stars, tolerating tantrums, and then repeat all of it more than N times a day?
Answer- An extremely soothing, relaxing, motivating, calming and definitely pampering type of quality mommy’s ME-TIME.
Me-time is my prayer every night and believe me when I say it because little Rockstar keeps me on my toes with all the tantrums that he has in his eating schedule, sleeping schedule and most importantly that stubbornness with his mood swings.
After meeting a lot of moms what satisfies me is that I’m not the only one who gets so exhausted and saturated. Such saturation and exhaustion needs to be calmed down for our better performance in the 1 million roles that we play in our daily lives as a mom, as a wife and most importantly as a human being.
Saying this, I also agree that a lot of us sail in the zone where we are always running after the best for our family for our kids, leaving behind ourselves, our needs, our relaxation and all of the care that a soul and a body needs. This might seem the least important when you become a Mommy but as time passes you understand that this is the most important of all to function with a happy mind and a happy body.
Assuming that this much of the introduction clears the importance of your ME-TIME, let’s head towards HOW TO MAKE YOUR ME-TIME INTERESTING, FUN AND SATISFYING all at the same time. Stating all the things I do whenever I find a little or more time for myself-
Yes,yoga! I know most of you might assume this as more stressful and more energy requiring activity, but trust me if you do it following all the rules it will only make you more fresh and active than you were. And if you’re lucky to find an hour to yourself on a daily basis, I recommend you practising yoga at least 4 days a week for 30-45 minutes. This helps to balance mind, body, soul as well as burning the extra calories that we consume while munching with our kids. This has literally helped me shed all my pregnancy weight without working out rigorously or dieting.
Massage soothes all the muscles providing them proper blood flow and relaxes the stress in them created by our daily tiring schedule. There are days when my shoulders and legs and back want to disown my body and just go die, and that day all I want to do is head for a nice spa or get a nice body massage done. Spa and massage gives your body all the oil and moisture it needs so it keeps my skin fresh for at least a week. I try to have a massage once a week.
Manicures, pedicures, clean ups, eyebrows and hair pampering are the words which mostly a mom forgets after she becomes a hands on Mommy. Keeping your body clean prevents you from all types of infections, acne, dryness and yes, keeps you ready for a quick sneak out date with your lovely husband. As important as everything else,I make sure I pamper my body once in a month. This has kept my skin clean and radiant without any extra care.
Art in any form, forces your mind to be creative, stopping all the zillion thoughts to reach your mind. Painting, embroidery, drawing, cooking, doodling, nail paints, dancing, decorating your baby’s cupboard, making some cards for your love or anything that requires your mind to work creatively. This can be done even if you have very less time. I like to make small sticky notes for my husband and stick on his phone while he’s asleep, I like to do pencil shading although not good at it but still yes, I dance with my baby sometimes that keeps him plus me happy, charged & active.So yes, find the creative side of yourself and give time to it.
Keeping this small and simple, take out time for your romance and your husband. Because this out of all the other things, makes your bond and relation stronger and deeper and obviously full of life, happiness and joy. However important parenting and motherhood is equally important is your marriage and love.
Meditation is food for mind & body. It relaxes,controls and balances your emotions & thoughts. This should be your 1st choice regardless of the free time that you have. After you meditate you can experience that you are calm, your whole mind is calm and your whole body is relaxed. After all that’s what you want when you’re a Mommy. Meditate has a lot of benefits and hence all the mommys, moms-to-be, infact not just them everyone should consider adding meditation to their routine for 4 days a week.
Apart from these, there are various others like shopping, binge eating, etc but these mentioned above are important as well as interesting for a Mommy.
So yes, this is what I have been doing over the course and I hope this helps you guys. If there’s anything else that you do and believe it could be of help to me or any Mommy, please share in the comment box.