Am I doing the best as a mommy?

Once you become a mother, with responsibilities comes overdoing everything. Mothers start to overdo everything that is in their hands, like caring for the family, ignoring her own body, worrying about the family and the list might go on. The reason for this is that in the joy and power of motherhood, a mother wants to do everything that is more than possible and everything that is better than the best for her child. I am never going to judge or not favour them because this is motherhood. The saying “God can’t be everywhere so he made mothers” is not wrong. The definition of mothers may be described by various dictionaries but none does justice to what it actually means to be a mom. A mother however and in whichever condition she is, the unconditional love for her child never seems to take a backseat.

The only thing about motherhood that feels really inadequate is the mother underestimating her efforts. Self doubt and underestimation make their way to her mind like every other important thing.

” maybe the child isn’t happy with what I am doing for him”

“maybe I am not doing it properly”,

“I’m not giving him my 100%”,

“I shouldn’t be resting because he’s dependent on me”,

“he is not wrong maybe I didn’t teach him properly”,

“no results maybe my fault”,

“am I feeding appropriate?”,

“am I cooking right?”,

“am I teaching good values?”,

“am I doing everything that the other lady is doing?”,

“maybe no”,

“I am not a good mother because I just shouted, becausei just made him cry”

” my child is not interested in me”

An infinite amount of time will be less and words will be scarce if I write down the different type of dishes a mommy’s mind cooks.

This Mother’s day out of every other greetings and gratitude I truly wanted to take this most common question that every mother regardless of her motherhood age keeps doubting herself with.

So, every mother no matter anything, is the best mother for her child. There can be no better replacement and no better substitute to a mother. No one can know the child as much as his own mother. Whether the child approves and acknowledges or not, but a mother is the most important person and aspect of his life. And the world has not come across any mother in its lifetime who doesn’t do the best for the child, so please believe the soul inside you that has unconditional love and unconditional strength for your child. Stressing too much about the development of the child and putting yourself in the culprit position not only decreases the confidence but also decreases the impact of your efforts on the child. Before anything we are humans, so it is okay to make mistakes and moreover it is okay to not be able to do everything desirable for the child. Relax your body and your mind, give them enough time to rejuvenate and regenerate the best of you. Keep repeating to yourself “I am the best mother to my child”.

Believe in you, the soul in you, the mother in you because you are commendable and worth it and that’s the reason God made you the mother.

April’18 – one productive month. Thank you post.

April every year starts with summers and lazy routine but this year things were different. I took the blogchatter #blogchatterA2Z challenge.

Having started blogging just 2 months back and not even sure if I will be able to do it, I saw the #BlogchatterA2Z challenge and immediately thought of signing up. Obviously a very quick and unprepared decision, but something inside said “Do it”.

Doubting my personal decision at every point, I started the challenge with a hope of completing at least a week, but the community, DM twitter group and the social media inspired me and helped me finish the challenge. The inspiration and the force were so strong that I could write each day without fail and honestly, I had no pre-written material at all. I signed up just a day or two before the challenge started, and in the heat of it all, I took a theme as challenging as “The struggles of an Indian girl, housemaker and a hands-on mommy”.

The theme was really close to my heart but equally sensitive. Being a mommy blogger I wanted to describe it accordingly. Not sure if I could pull off the theme as it should have but I tried and decided to take this theme, not only because I want everyone to understand and apply, but we mothers, who are moulding our future, to know what to impart in order to make India a better place.

Blogchatter helped me in every way it can,

1. Persistence-

The entire community including the participants were highly inspiring, helping and motivating. This kept me writing daily regardless of the time I get with a toddler at home.

2. Inner strength

It found me the courage that I was unaware of. I got to know my inner strength. It brought out the best possible version of me this time. Helped me push my limits and set new standards for myself.

3. A slightly bigger audience

Posting daily, retweets and the participants engagements on my post helped me make new friends and reach a bigger audience. It definitely helped me in making a strong profile for myself.

Thank you blogchatter and all the participants for making my journey through this challenge so worth it.

P.s – if you haven’t read my posts for the entire month of April, please read it.